INSPIRATION

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This is how I feel everyday. I wake up and ask myself, what is one step I can take that inches my way through my fears and closer to my authentic, passionate, and true desires. It’s not easy, I won’t say I’m “cured” just because I’m a coach. Nope, I’m only a step ahead of the clients I’m blessed to witness.

I’ve had many setbacks in my life that for years stopped me dead in my tracks. The root of these may have been from ADHD, and yet what kept me paralyzed was insecurity, doubt, fear, not my condition. Mindset truly is a game changer.

I intentionally chose to focus on remembering I am thriving, influencing, shifting, stretching, and moving in the direction I want to go, even if there are days it is painstakingly slow.

My mindset is kindness and acceptance of my pace as I inch toward what I want. Yes, even on the days I accomplish only one thing on my list.

What do you want? What do you need? It’s love to help you answer those questions.

Quote from the book “The Yellow Envelope,” by Kim Dinan

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This is how I feel everyday. I wake up and ask myself, what is one step I can take that inches my way through my fears and closer to my authentic, passionate, and true desires. It’s not easy, I won’t say I’m “cured” just because I’m a coach. Nope, I’m only a step ahead of the clients I’m blessed to witness. 

I’ve had many setbacks in my life that for years stopped me dead in my tracks. The root of these may have been from ADHD, and yet what kept me paralyzed was insecurity, doubt, fear, not my condition. Mindset truly is a game changer. 

I intentionally chose to focus on remembering I am thriving, influencing, shifting, stretching, and moving in the direction I want to go, even if there are days it is painstakingly slow. 

My mindset is kindness and acceptance of my pace as I inch toward what I want. Yes, even on the days I accomplish only one thing on my list. 

What do you want? What do you need? It’s love to help you answer those questions. 

Quote from the book “The Yellow Envelope,” by Kim Dinan

#adhd #adhdparenting #parenting #selfimprovement #iseeyou

I know I can’t completely control the environment for my family, and have made it as healthy as possible. I also can’t force my kids to connect with MW, that’s my job. I try not to let my reactivity, slow processing, or sensitivity get in the way, and yet there can still be disconnection.

To move forward , I realized I needed to help myself first. I’m reflecting on my past pain, challenging the stories I’m telling myself (Umm, I am needed!!), and getting outside support from someone who is compassionate, and good at asking tough questions.

The result is, I’m searching for new beliefs about myself, considering alternative stories about what might be happening in my life, and choosing different actions to experiment with.

When you’re ready for the support you deserve, I’ll be here. You don’t have to resign yourself to what you are living with now. Your can show up as a parent, partner, friend , and employee in a way that is authentic , calm, and connected. All it takes is a commitment to yourself, and some support. 🌱
#parenting #adhdparenting #moms #dads #adhd #empoweredwomen #empowereddads #empoweredmoms #helpforparents #iseeyou
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I know I can’t completely control the environment for my family, and have made it as healthy as possible. I also can’t force my kids to connect with MW, that’s my job.  I try not to let my reactivity, slow processing, or sensitivity get in the way, and yet there can still be disconnection. 

To move forward , I realized I needed to help myself first. I’m reflecting on my past pain, challenging the stories I’m telling myself (Umm, I am needed!!), and getting outside support from someone who is compassionate, and good at asking tough questions.  

The result is,  I’m searching for new beliefs about myself, considering alternative stories about what might be happening in my life, and choosing different actions to experiment with. 

When you’re ready for the support you deserve, I’ll be here. You don’t have to resign yourself to what you are living with now.  Your can show up as a parent, partner, friend , and employee in a way that is authentic , calm, and connected. All it takes is a commitment to yourself, and some support. 🌱
#parenting #adhdparenting #moms #dads #adhd #empoweredwomen #empowereddads #empoweredmoms #helpforparents #iseeyou

We are not irresponsible people. We, and your kids, are often trying the best we can. After many failed attempts, e often get irritated or give up, not because we’re lazy or don’t care. It’s exhausting. It’s overwhelming.

None of this is meant as an excuse, I say it to take the personalization of your actions, and those of your kids, out of it. I invite you to practice kindness and acceptance of yourself. Notice that voice inside your head, who is so critical, and feels shame. That voice NEEDS your compassion. Giving that to yourself will aid you in giving it to others. 🌱
#adhd #adhdparenting #adhdparents #adhdparent #anxiety #parentingtips #parenting #moms #dads #adhdmoms #adhddads #moodykids #parentingadhd #youdontgetit #misunderstoodkids #consciousparenting
#emotionaloutbursts
#tantrums
#angrykids
#anxiouskids
#adhdkids
#shame
#mindsetmatters
#painfulchildhood
#childhoodtrauma
#empathicparenting
#sleepstruggles
#curiosityinparenting
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We are not irresponsible people. We, and your kids, are often trying the best we can. After many failed attempts, e often get irritated or give up, not because we’re lazy or don’t care. It’s exhausting. It’s overwhelming.  

None of this is meant as an excuse, I say it to take the personalization of your actions, and those of your kids, out of it. I invite you to  practice kindness and acceptance of yourself. Notice that voice inside your head, who is so critical, and feels shame. That voice NEEDS your compassion.  Giving that to yourself will aid you in giving it to others. 🌱
 #adhd #adhdparenting #adhdparents #adhdparent #anxiety #parentingtips #parenting #moms #dads #adhdmoms #adhddads #moodykids #parentingadhd #youdontgetit #misunderstoodkids #consciousparenting
#emotionaloutbursts
#tantrums
#angrykids
#anxiouskids
#adhdkids
#shame
#mindsetmatters
#painfulchildhood
#childhoodtrauma
#empathicparenting
#sleepstruggles
#curiosityinparenting

Do you wake up each day thinking, today will be better. I’m not going to lose my temper. I’m not going to take every comment, look or action as an attack against me. I will remember to pick the kids up on time. I am going to complete the items on my list. I will clean the house, get dinner ready, and connect with my kids.

Then the day is over and you did yell, take things personally, pick up the kids late, accomplish nothing on your list, let alone dinner, and everyone went to bed upset and disconnected.

These types of days used to happen to me a lot, and what would happen next was the awful shame that would surface. The thing about shame, that we don’t often think about, is its connectedness to the beliefs we have about ourselves. Subconsciously if we believe we are a failure, incompetent , or unworthy we will always struggle. The awesome thing is we can shift our beliefs with education, practice, and support. Awareness of what we think and how it affects our actions is the first step. If you need support, let’s chat.
🌱
#adhd #adhdparenting #adhdparents #adhdparent #anxiety #parentingtips #parenting #moms #dads #adhdmoms #adhddads #moodykids #parentingadhd #youdontgetit #misunderstoodkids #consciousparenting
#emotionaloutbursts
#tantrums
#angrykids
#anxiouskids
#adhdkids
#shame
#mindsetmatters
#painfulchildhood
#childhoodtrauma
#empathicparenting
#sleepstruggles
#curiosityinparenting
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Do you wake up each day thinking, today will be better. I’m not going to lose my temper. I’m not going to take every comment, look or action as an attack against me. I will remember to pick the kids up on time. I am going to complete the items on my list. I will clean the house, get dinner ready, and connect with my kids. 

Then the day is over and you did yell, take things personally, pick up the kids late, accomplish nothing on your list, let alone dinner, and everyone went to bed upset and disconnected. 

These types of days used to happen to me a lot, and what would happen next was the awful shame that would surface.  The thing about shame, that we don’t often think about, is its connectedness to the beliefs we have about ourselves. Subconsciously if we believe we are a failure, incompetent , or unworthy we will always struggle.  The awesome thing is we can shift our beliefs with education, practice, and support. Awareness of what we think and how it affects our actions is the first step. If you need support, let’s chat. 
🌱
 #adhd #adhdparenting #adhdparents #adhdparent #anxiety #parentingtips #parenting #moms #dads #adhdmoms #adhddads #moodykids #parentingadhd #youdontgetit #misunderstoodkids #consciousparenting
#emotionaloutbursts
#tantrums
#angrykids
#anxiouskids
#adhdkids
#shame
#mindsetmatters
#painfulchildhood
#childhoodtrauma
#empathicparenting
#sleepstruggles
#curiosityinparenting

Yesterday I moved my oldest to college, and it was a day of mixed emotions for me.

I wondered; did I prepare her enough, did I teach her what she needs to know, did the mistakes I made while raising her leave any lasting damage?

Then I took a deep breath and paused. I was feeling anxious. As my breathing brought me back to the present moment, I remembered I have raised a strong, independent, generous, and kind young woman. Whatever mistakes I may have made along the way are part of life. I own them, and always continue to look inward and discover how I can grow and learn. My relationship with my daughter will continue to grow, because I prioritize connecting with her and her experiences. And whatever obstacles she might face in the next few years, I will support her by recognizing when my own fears or triggers are interfering, so I can show up for her as she needs.

Whatever struggles you are facing, whether your kids are young or grown, I can help you find ways to improve your relationship, recognize your worth, and create a safe, peaceful space for your family. DM me or visit my website for more details. ❤️🌱

#adhd #adhdparenting #adhdparents #adhdparent #anxiety #parentingtips #parenting #moms #dads #adhdmoms #adhddads #moodykids #parentingadhd #youdontgetit #misunderstoodkids #consciousparenting
#emotionaloutbursts
#tantrums
#angrykids
#anxiouskids
#adhdkids
#Shame
#mindsetmatters
#painfulchildhood
#childhoodtrauma
#empathicparenting
#sleepstruggles
#curiosityinparenting
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Yesterday I moved my oldest to college, and it was a day of mixed emotions for me. 

I wondered; did I prepare her enough, did I teach her what she needs to know, did the mistakes I made while raising her leave any lasting damage? 

Then I took a deep breath and paused. I was feeling anxious.  As my breathing brought me back to the present moment, I remembered I have raised a strong, independent, generous, and kind young woman. Whatever mistakes I may have made along the way are part of life. I own them, and always continue to look inward and discover how I can grow and learn. My relationship with my daughter will continue to grow, because I prioritize connecting with her and her experiences. And whatever obstacles she might face in the next few years, I will support her by recognizing when my own fears or triggers are interfering, so I can show up for her as she needs.  

Whatever struggles you are facing, whether your kids are young or grown, I can help you find ways to improve your relationship, recognize your worth, and create a safe, peaceful space for your family. DM me or visit my website for more details. ❤️🌱

#adhd #adhdparenting #adhdparents #adhdparent #anxiety #parentingtips #parenting #moms #dads #adhdmoms #adhddads #moodykids #parentingadhd #youdontgetit #misunderstoodkids #consciousparenting
#emotionaloutbursts
#tantrums
#angrykids
#anxiouskids
#adhdkids
#shame
#mindsetmatters
#painfulchildhood
#childhoodtrauma
#empathicparenting
#sleepstruggles
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On this day, or any day really, please consider the indisputable fact that we ALL feel pain, sorrow, and fear; and we ALL need love, compassion, and understanding.

Whether it’s our kids, families, or strangers, it will serve EVERYONE, when we choose to be curious about why people are behaving the way they are. Most of us keep the deep struggles and pain buried deep inside, because it’s too vulnerable; it’s not safe!

When we become curious and create a space that allows authentic connection, we then begin to learn what a person is truly experiencing, and that they are trying to survive.

That rude coworker is possibly super stressed and anxious, thinking she’s incompetent and no one likes her.

The neighbor who is cold and dismissive is possibly in a terrible relationship, is financially struggling, or contemplating suicide.

Your toddler who is throwing a tantrum is not misbehaving, he is possibly needing connection or support.

My point? It’s not usually about us. When we also become upset, we miss an opportunity to help someone out, and that always feels good. Can you relate? 🌱
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#adhd #adhdparenting #adhdparents #adhdparent #anxiety #parentingtips #parenting #moms #dads #adhdmoms #adhddads #moodykids #parentingadhd #youdontgetit #misunderstoodkids #consciousparenting
#emotionaloutbursts
#tantrums
#angrykids
#anxiouskids
#adhdkids
#shame
#mindsetmatters
#painfulchildhood
#childhoodtrauma
#empathicparenting
#sleepstruggles
#curiosityinparenting
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On this day, or any day really, please consider the indisputable fact that we ALL feel pain, sorrow, and fear; and we ALL need love, compassion, and understanding. 

Whether it’s our kids, families, or strangers, it will serve EVERYONE, when we choose to be curious about why people are behaving the way they are.  Most of us keep the deep struggles and pain buried deep inside, because it’s too vulnerable; it’s not safe! 

When we become curious and create a space that allows authentic connection, we then begin to learn what a person is truly experiencing, and that they are trying to survive. 

That rude coworker is possibly super stressed and anxious, thinking she’s incompetent and no one likes her. 

The neighbor who is cold and dismissive is possibly in a terrible relationship, is financially struggling, or contemplating suicide. 

Your toddler who is throwing a tantrum is not misbehaving, he is possibly needing connection or support.  

My point? It’s not usually about us. When we also become upset, we miss an opportunity to help someone out, and that always feels good.  Can you relate? 🌱
🌱
 #adhd #adhdparenting #adhdparents #adhdparent #anxiety #parentingtips #parenting #moms #dads #adhdmoms #adhddads #moodykids #parentingadhd #youdontgetit #misunderstoodkids #consciousparenting
#emotionaloutbursts
#tantrums
#angrykids
#anxiouskids
#adhdkids
#shame
#mindsetmatters
#painfulchildhood
#childhoodtrauma
#empathicparenting
#sleepstruggles
#curiosityinparenting

So often we look to others for praise, reassurance, or acceptance. This sets us up to be dependent and insecure. I myself have struggled with this, especially as an ADHDer. As a kid I was told I was lazy and unfocused. Maybe you were told you were disruptive and wild. Over time we, or at least me, looked around and tried to live up to others expectations, but at a cost. That cost was not trusting my feelings, thoughts or abilities. Can you relate?

The kids we are raising need us desperately to learn how to trust and love who we are, flaws and all! That’s the ONLY way we can share with them how to do the same. 🌱
🌱
#adhd #adhdparenting #adhdparents #adhdparent #anxiety #parentingtips #parenting #moms #dads #adhdmoms #adhddads #moodykids #parentingadhd #youdontgetit #misunderstoodkids #consciousparenting
#emotionaloutbursts
#tantrums
#angrykids
#anxiouskids
#adhdkids
#shame
#mindsetmatters
#painfulchildhood
#childhoodtrauma
#empathicparenting
#sleepstruggles
#curiosityinparenting
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So often we look to others for praise, reassurance, or acceptance. This sets us up to be dependent and insecure. I myself have struggled with this, especially as an ADHDer. As a kid I was told I was lazy and unfocused. Maybe you were told you were disruptive and wild. Over time we, or at least me, looked around and tried to live up to others expectations, but at a cost. That cost was not trusting my feelings, thoughts or abilities. Can you relate? 

The kids we are raising need us desperately to learn how to trust and love who we are, flaws and all! That’s the ONLY way we can share with them how to do the same. 🌱
🌱
 #adhd #adhdparenting #adhdparents #adhdparent #anxiety #parentingtips #parenting #moms #dads #adhdmoms #adhddads #moodykids #parentingadhd #youdontgetit #misunderstoodkids #consciousparenting
#emotionaloutbursts
#tantrums
#angrykids
#anxiouskids
#adhdkids
#shame
#mindsetmatters
#painfulchildhood
#childhoodtrauma
#empathicparenting
#sleepstruggles
#curiosityinparenting

If only it were that easy, right?! Those of us with ADHD often struggle with making decisions. We can feel overwhelmed because of the vast amount of information floating through our minds, or we don’t know where to begin, so we do nothing. The consequence of that choice is that we stay stuck in jobs we hate, in relationships that aren’t nurturing, and in patterns of parenting that aren’t helpful for us or our children.

What has worked for me, and my clients, is support, new ideas and tools, accountability, and bravery. Bravery because trying something new can be terrifying, so much so that keep ourselves in situations we know deep down aren’t helping us shift forward.

Parenting is seriously the hardest thing I’ve ever done, yet truly the most rewarding. It is possible to have your kids behave respectfully, to get along with their siblings, and not have a melt down EVERY time you ask them to do something. Please know it isn’t weak to ask for help, it’s honorable. Repeat after me, “You are NOT a failure or an awful parent,” maybe it’s just time to pave a new path. 🌱
🌱
#adhd #adhdparenting #adhdparents #adhdparent #anxiety #parentingtips #parenting #moms #dads #adhdmoms #adhddads #moodykids #parentingadhd #youdontgetit #misunderstoodkids #consciousparenting
#emotionaloutbursts
#tantrums
#angrykids
#anxiouskids
#adhdkids
#shame
#mindsetmatters
#painfulchildhood
#childhoodtrauma
#empathicparenting
#sleepstruggles
#curiosityinparenting
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If only it were that easy, right?! Those of us with ADHD often struggle with making decisions. We can feel overwhelmed because of the vast amount of information floating through our minds, or we don’t know where to begin, so we do nothing. The consequence of that choice is that we stay stuck in jobs we hate, in relationships that aren’t nurturing, and in patterns of parenting that aren’t helpful for us or our children.  

What has worked for me, and my clients, is support, new ideas and tools, accountability, and bravery. Bravery because trying something new can be terrifying, so much so that keep ourselves in situations we know deep down aren’t helping us shift forward. 

Parenting is seriously the hardest thing I’ve ever done, yet truly the most rewarding. It is possible to have your kids behave respectfully, to get along with their siblings, and not have a melt down EVERY time you ask them to do something.  Please know it isn’t weak to ask for help, it’s honorable. Repeat after me, “You are NOT a failure or an awful parent,” maybe it’s just time to pave a new path. 🌱
🌱
 #adhd #adhdparenting #adhdparents #adhdparent #anxiety #parentingtips #parenting #moms #dads #adhdmoms #adhddads #moodykids #parentingadhd #youdontgetit #misunderstoodkids #consciousparenting
#emotionaloutbursts
#tantrums
#angrykids
#anxiouskids
#adhdkids
#shame
#mindsetmatters
#painfulchildhood
#childhoodtrauma
#empathicparenting
#sleepstruggles
#curiosityinparenting

Whenever I become stuck in a power struggle, I realize later I was triggered. Not listening to me would play the tape in my mind from my past saying no one ever listens to me. That may have been how my childhood interactions were, but not my adult life. Having this awareness when triggered by others gives me power, the power to choose to stop and do something different.

As a parent, we can choose to be curious and help our kids identify what they’re feeling when they’re upset. ADHD kiddos especially need this curiosity, because we may witness an event as no big deal, yet to them it was gigantic, and THAT is what matters. They need something and are having trouble figuring it out. Using our insight, and providing comfort, will help them through their discomfort and behavior will improve.

Power struggles never win. Deep breaths, an intention to connect, and remembering our children’s behaviors are less about hurting, bothering, or disrespecting us, and more about their pain. 🌱

Photo cred-Planting Peace

#adhd #adhdparenting #adhdparents #adhdparent #anxiety #parentingtips #parenting #moms #dads #adhdmoms #adhddads #moodykids #parentingadhd #youdontgetit #misunderstoodkids #consciousparenting
#emotionaloutbursts
#tantrums
#angrykids
#anxiouskids
#adhdkids
#shame
#mindsetmatters
#painfulchildhood
#childhoodtrauma
#empathicparenting
#sleepstruggles
#curiosityinparenting
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Whenever I become stuck in a power struggle, I realize later I was triggered. Not listening to me would play the tape in my mind from my past saying no one ever listens to me.  That may have been how my childhood interactions were, but not my adult life.  Having this awareness when triggered by others gives me power, the power to choose to stop and do something different. 

As a parent, we can choose to be curious and help our kids identify what they’re feeling when they’re upset. ADHD kiddos especially need this curiosity, because we may witness an event as no big deal, yet to them it was gigantic, and THAT is what matters.  They need something and are having trouble figuring it out. Using our insight, and providing comfort, will help them through their discomfort and behavior will improve. 

Power struggles never win. Deep breaths, an intention to connect, and remembering our children’s behaviors are less about hurting, bothering, or disrespecting us, and more about their pain. 🌱

Photo cred-Planting Peace

 #adhd #adhdparenting #adhdparents #adhdparent #anxiety #parentingtips #parenting #moms #dads #adhdmoms #adhddads #moodykids #parentingadhd #youdontgetit #misunderstoodkids #consciousparenting
#emotionaloutbursts
#tantrums
#angrykids
#anxiouskids
#adhdkids
#shame
#mindsetmatters
#painfulchildhood
#childhoodtrauma
#empathicparenting
#sleepstruggles
#curiosityinparenting
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